BobX... I am writing this after seeing the uploaded photo, and making assumptions about the kind of person you are based on your image...
u look like a... christian, or a history teacher, and generally inoffensive, so on reflection I should apologise for the bum-love comment, as it was a low blow, but as I was intending to be derogatory and imflammatory I won't... I thought it was a fine use of words, personally, but I am British, and from the poor North, and common, and cannot do much about my coarse arrogance and ignorance, so intrinsic to my inner being...
I agree with you about the bars though- the straight bars and clubs are just the same- it's not a gay thing, but a drunk/drugged up young ppl thing... all the gay men I know except one, is just that way... that's not to say they're not good people, or not politically motivated, or ill-educated, just that they exist- and, as well as this, most of the gay people I know are under 40, and black and bright pink rather than lavender... of the old gays I know, just two I'm afraid, one fem, one man, both of them have grown out of the whole bar scene and like long term relationships and wouldn't dream of cheating... they are just as conventional as straights of the same age and class...
I apologise for "mocking you", I wanted to provoke you, but I didn't really want to hurt you, so am sorry for that. My problem is, I find it difficult to accept that ur sexuality, which u don't even seem to indulge in much physically is so pivotal to ur existence...
most the of gay people I know are what I call "ultra-gay". They are not extremists, but everything, for them, is connected to being gay. The worst for this, in my world, are the young lesbians. I can understand this kind of behaviour in the young and newly out, but some people build whole careers on something so basic as who they like to bed (or have, deep meaningful relationships with, etc).
I find this way of thinking illogical, and I wonder sometimes if we saw this kind of group-think behaviour in a religious group whether we would call them a cult. We probably would. Hence me poking fun at what I perceive to be your affectation.
I have been this way myself- for me, everything was about class. I railed against the oppressors, saw discrimination everywhere I turned. Thinking this way is foolish and seperates us from the rest of humanity. We selectively self-segregate and then wail about being ghetto-ized.
This is not aimed as a personal criticism, or veiled statements as to your own motivations. Thought I'd clarify that. Just my thoughts after reading your reply.
I believe what you say is your truth, but I do not believe it is the truth.
I do not think women are somehow naturally predisposed to bi-sexuality. Sex is just an act, an often opportunistic, culturally biased, recreational pursuit, beyond intentional procreation. Sexuality is a psychological construct. Beyond religion, beyond politics, beyond society, this concept of what sexuality is doesn't exist. If that is true, then being "gay" is a choice, much the same way as "straight" or "christian" or "buddhist" is a choice. We may feel that this "ism" is the core of us, but is it, or is it something we have borrowed from others and tried to make our own?
I am not saying your choice, or my choice, is wrong, or you should be more like me. I wanted to poke fun at you because I thought you were playing the wounded drama-queen and using loaded language to garner support for your arguement, in much the same way we all do... I didn't actually want to wound you, just pull your jumper around your head...
...to prove I bear you no ill-will, I will share something with you (and about a million others in cyber-space)
As choices go, I am most "turned on" by the idea of shagging panthers. My main problem in indulging my beastial fantasies is the issue of consent, and so I remain a virgin, so to speak. Recently I have discovered that there are people who, because of a genetic mutation, are completely covered in hair. They call them wolf-people. I want one, and am prepared to travel.
Feel free to openly deride me about this, of course. I would do the same to you if you revealed you had a thing for wolf-people...
