Why would you expect young women to possess any more self respect as young men?
The feminist movement partially achieved what it set out to achieve: women gained a greater foothold in the political arena and the workplace. They can now occupy positions of power unthinkable a few decades ago.
But of course it was not a panacea for wo/mankind's woes.
You want girls to act like Lisa Simpson? How about getting guys to stop acting like Hugh Hefner?
But what is it about Hugh Hefner that you find so repulsive? I don't know much about this character. When you make a statement like that you're assuming that I know what makes him a repulsive character. The problem I have in understanding what you're saying is that Hugh Hefner is a real-life person whereas Lisa Simpson is a fictional cartoon character specially shaped to convey a particular message to the audience. If there is something we like or dislike about Lisa, it was the intention of the producers of The Simpsons. There is no "intended message" behind the character of Hugh Hefner as far as I know with regards to what we should find repulsive about him.
Here's my solution to achieve more respect and decorum in this world: every child born out of wedlock costs a man 25% of all his earnings until the child is eighteen-years old. Since a man has to have something to live on himself, he gets three "strikes". After the third child, he's castrated... permanently.
But now you are prescribing punishment here and I don't think that solves the problem. Punishment is a deterrent but it doesn't destroy the desire or motivation. A man is going to find some other way to fulfil his desires.
Besides, I didn't prescribe punishment or condemnation for anyone. I was just saying that a woman can say no.
When I made that comment I didn't mean it to be a one-sided issue. Recall what I said about a man trying to prove his manhood by how many or what kind of woman he is able to take into bed and teenage boys' desires to lose their virginity.
It is seeming, more and more to me that the problem is an oversexualised society. Teenage boys and girls become reckless with their bodies because they want to fulfil their desires before everybody else does. I have seen enough to know that the struggles in the average sex life don't change much when one progresses to adulthood. You still suffer from self-esteem with regards to your sexual worth. Women worry about their looks and body shape. Men worry about their performance in bed. Do you notice all the advertisements on Viagra and erection problems?
When I see all these advertisements of Viagra, erection problems and read stories about divorce and relationship problems, I become rather disillusioned. Sex, women and marriage was never what it was cracked up to be. It makes me think that sex and marriage must be the most horrible thing anyone ever invented. It makes me glad I never lost my virginity. I might as well never have sex.
But I am thinking, more and more, that the problem is society's obsession with sex. If sexual dignity is so important, it should be protected. Society seems to think that freedom for teenagers is more important than their sexual dignity. These discussions are kind of changing me views on that. We could probably give them freedom on other matters, but sexual dignity is perhaps one of the things where they should not have freedom.
Freedom is power. With power comes responsibility. Maybe this freedom is too much for teenagers. Teenagers can't be trusted to keep their sexual dignity. It should perhaps be the responsibility of parents to guard their children's sexual dignity.
A girl can say no to a man but maybe she doesn't feel that she has the power to face up to the possibility of "not being loved." A boy could well see that getting a girl in bed doesn't really prove much to the world in the long term. Once you grow up, you realise it doesn't mean much. Adult men do it all the time but it doesn't give them the happiness they'd like. The boy feels he is in a social environment where it is important.
What is happening here is that people are trying to find happiness in places and people that seem important in their immediate social environment. If they had known better, they'd realise that they have a choice. The girl can say no. The boy should realise that his efforts mean very little. The boy and girl seem very much to be slaves of their social environment. We give them freedom, but that freedom is not being exploited to its full potential. The teenage boy and girl is too ignorant to make the best use of his/her freedom.
One may argue that this freedom allows us to experiment and figure out for ourselves what is good and healthy. But maybe sexual dignity is an exception. It is one of the things that everybody must have. Maybe teenagers just can't be trusted with their sexual dignity. It is too important.
But maybe the problem isn't strictly teenagers. Maybe it is sex itself. Maybe people shouldn't have sex before marriage. If you want to have sex before marriage it's because you want to experiment and explore. It's because you want to practice to be good at giving sexual pleasure. But you wouldn't need to practice to be good at sex if sex wasn't so important in the first place, if sex was just a way of making babies. I think I would rather have an emotional relationship with a woman than a sexual one. Why not settle for something platonic?
In fact, why not go back to the good-old-fashioned days of celibacy and chastity? Is it really that bad to be a virgin, to be chaste and/or celibate? Does everyone have to be a romping Casanova?
Has sex become the next opiate of the masses?
If sex wasn't the ultimate virtue, we wouldn't need all this Viagra and plastic/cosmetic surgery?