Oh my goodness Grey I wasn't talking about converting faith, just about finding the way to say I am a woman and I want to be a woman. I had been taught for so long that being a 'girly' was a weakness. I finally saw, yes due to my converting faith, that I had boxed myself into a corner and all I had to do was lift the lid and say here I am, a pink fluffy girly. I was 40 when I finally let go of my Thatcherite "women are strong and should have it all" nonsense. It wasn't easy and even now I have control issues. My best friend used to go mad because I would never let her drive us anywhere, I was a total control freak and scared to let anyone take control of any aspect of my life. How liberating it was when I realised that I could say, yeah you drive, I'll enjoy the scenery. So forget about faith in this issue, just accept that life is easier when there are two of you to share the burden and yes sometimes it is liberating to let another person take control, even if that just means letting your best friend drive. It's sort of the opposite of the burn your bra campaign.