For me, this is exactly why the pure Dharma no longer is in the world... What I say is more Zen, seatlegal is more Theraveda. It is like an Orthodox Muslim talking to a Sufi, they will never see eye to eye - and yet she brings in Mahayana principles like that of the Bodhisatva vow. This would be like a Sunni agreeing with a Shi'a... I am not at all a Buddhist though, Zen simply is an evolution of the Sanskrit Dhyana - it just means "meditation", and is what all the mystic schools have in common. The exoteric faiths study and pray, the esoteric experience and meditate. It makes sense, right? Exoteric means going outwards, esoteric means going inward - similar to extrovert and introvert. So, if you want to know about Buddhism, certainly take her over me... if you want to know about Buddha, perhaps that is not the best idea.