I actually feel pretty strongly about this and am not hesitant to answer. I also have some personal experience which will help drive my response. How does God love someone who despises him? Because he is not like a man who sees only the surface. He sees deep into that person and he sees something that can be loved and he does love it. He may see this and the person who despises Him can't even see it at all. However, God's love is a noble and high thing, and it does not come cheap. It's not a carnal thing to be drug around in the mud because that's his heart that is being drug around and the person has no idea how much it cost Him. So, it hurts him. Because he sees something better in that person, something more noble, and it hurts to see that that person can be so shallow with something that is so precious. + + + + + I don't think we have to worry too much about being defeated, that would be satan's (or place your psychological equivalent here ________) problem.