Accept the Apology. I was in a conversation this weekend where I heard this phrase, accept the apology. I have never heard it before and I don't even know if it's a phrase I haven't looked it up yet suppose I should before I write this but that it's not in my nature. So in the conversation he says, he has got to accept the apology. And I replied, was there an apology? Did she apologize? And he said no no she didn't but he has to accept the apology and move on. I nodded as if I understood and the conversation continued and I was confused but I just allowed it to sink in and listen. In my world I have fought with forgiveness for wrongs. I have come to grips with what I thought were unforgivable things, and watch people forgive and move on and how it benefited their life by being able to forgive the Unforgivable. But that forgiving the Unforgivable came with an apology of sorts, be it real, or insincere, at least there is a token apology to be forgiven, to be accepted. But this accept the apology confused me greatly. It still does. That is why I'm asking you to contemplate it. In my thoughts over the past few days I've come to terms with accept the apology, the apology that never happened, the apology that may never happen, the apology that one has no intent of happening. And now I realize, it needs to be accepted. Because the lack of accepting the nonexistent apology means not moving on. Means staying in the status quo. Means continuing to fight and grumble and have turmoil over the situation. What it amounts to in my mind is there are circumstances, with extenuating circumstances that snowball over issues. And we can stop the snowball we can affect the extenuating circumstances if we accept the apology that never happened for what we perceived to be the original fault. We have to let go of The Grudge over the disagreement to allow other things that should happen, that must happen for the benefit of all. Not saying it's easy, the contemplation now leaves me adding up the number of apologies that I must accept, apologies that haven't happened, that no one has any intent of happening currently, that may never happen... But I need to accept them none the less. It is my benefit and the benefit of those also wronged, for whom their lives will benefit, if I accept the apology. You know some people have died and I still hold.the grudge, I still have not accepted the apology...and therefore it is now I negatively affecting my life...they are not even here, and some haven't been for decades! It suddenly makes sense to accept the apology. I know this is vaguebooking oh, I know I have been overly obtuse as to the nature of the discussion. But if any of you grok my meeting and wish to participate in this thought experiment, please do. And know that I am working on accepting the apology. I fully expect that for many of you your knee-jerk reaction will be similar to mine (wtaf). But I ask you to take sometime to think of some grudges you hold, some unforgivable events which still negatively affect your life...and contemplate what would happen if that negativity left your system, if those thoughts no longer held you back, if you were free from that resentment how YOU would benefit, how your life and others could improve...if you would accept the apology that never happened.