Archetypes and their influences can be seen in both the conscious light and in a Shadow form. The craving for power that takes the form of submission or turning power over to a dominant authority figure may actually be a attempt to to establish order. In other words, it would be a Shadow substitute for personal competence and self control. It can also be a Shadow substitute for personal authority. Strivings for power may actually be unconscious Shadow strivings for competence and authority. In women this can sometimes take the form of trying to be desirable to a dominant male, but this is too risky. Even if it achieves a seemingly skillful result (i.e., a working practical arrangement), bargaining with patriarchy can mean the woman will sacrifice her own unique powers because the woman's position is essentially one of dependence. Consider the trophy wife to dominant male. She has no real power of her own and only gets to borrow a bit of legitimacy from her partner. But it's not true self-empowerment and it invariably tends to diminish the woman's freedom because it short-circuits freedom and actually destroys possibilities for real growth and progress. When a woman identifies blindly with animus imagery of male power and authority, she may take on various features from that imagery without realizing how damaging this is to her self interest. We see that in the Koesterer/Hoffman study (see post #57), which showed that authoritarian women are likely to align themselves with a sexist world view that has no respect for women. This lack of self respect can't be natural. It would have to be a dystonic cultural image. At any rate, people who don't love themselves are not good to to themselves, which means they won't take steps to realize their potential and continue to collaborate with negative forces. See the Beggar archetype or the Victim. Conflicted relationships may reflect unresolved inner conflicts or developmental lags that are being projected and/or externalized. Some of these issues may actually be parents' incomplete developmental challenges that children take upon themselves and continue to work out behalf of their parents. Relationship problems might very well go away when one of both of the partners become more individuated. Example: a man or a woman who is in touch with their own core of personal authority won't feel a need to assert authority by trying to control the spouse. To try to control other people is a Shadow version of actually taking control of one's own life and exercising creative autonomy.