I don't know about this "self" stuff either. By segregating the parts that make us whole persons , and perhaps overanalyzing each such part of us, then I believe we exacebate the very problems of separation that we are seeking to explain.
I always go back to some very primal myths. First there is Popeye who said over and over, "I yam what I yam".
Then there was that first mythical encounter between Moses and G-d, "I am that I am, that brings things into existence".
And of course there was the French guy that said, "I think therefore I am"
It's interesting that such a diverse set of characters were so obsessed with what makes us what we are, but the seeking of self is that razor's edge that all creative people must travel. Most of the rest of us plod along the linear roads of human life doing the same things over and over, freezing and beating our creative minds and spirits into a non-receptive mush..
Many of us never discover the non-linear joys to be found through the fortuitous blending of body, mind, and spirit into momentary episodes of wholeness which reflect truths of universal energies and thereby connect us to the divine. And if some of us reach such states of partnering in the enterprise of wholistic creation, we always must suffer for experiencing such truths. We are labeled "mystics", different from the "norm", manipulated and put in boxes so that what we are able to create might not come to disorder the established norms...true suffering.
It all may become a narcissistic hell to seek this wholeness of self, or it can become the ultimate loving experience, for if we do not come to accept and love ourselves in the realities of what we really are...we never ever will have the opportunities to experience the joys inherent in creating original portions of life for the long-term benefit of others.
Just my two cents.
flow....
