1. I feel Jesus and the apostles have given sufficient instructions to not engage in war anymore.
What, then, should we do in the face of the various invasions of Europe – the Mongols in the 13th century, for example, or the Nazis in the 20th? I agree he taught the way of peace, but I'm not sure he was a pacifist?
"Do not think that I came to send peace upon earth: I came not to send peace, but the sword." (Matthew 10:34)
"Then Jesus saith to him: Put up again thy sword into its place: for all that take the sword shall perish with the sword." (Matthew 26:52)
6. Does the Bible teach salvation is a free gift? Yes.
Yes. There is nothing that entitles us to it.
7. Do we get salvation from our actions or are obedience of the scriptures? No. It is by God's Grace and Jesus sacrifice, not from anything we have done or will do.
I disagree. What we do brings us closer to, or further from, God. Jesus said what we have to do to attain eternal life.
The Reformation tried to separate 'faith' and 'works' – the former means everything, the latter nothing. I don't see the two as separate. What we believe shapes what we do. Faith calls for action.
8. Why do we obey Jesus words and the other instructions in the Bible?
Because Jesus words instruct us to observe his commands Matthew 12:50, 28:20; John 14:23, 15:14 And put into practice the other words in the Bible Luke 8:21, Romans 15:4
By the same token, are we not bound to Sacred Tradition, as per Matthew 16:16-19, 18:16-20?
9. What does Jesus say about the majority and the few finding life? Matthew 7:13-14; Luke 13:24, John 3:36 says some "will not see life"
Is he saying that, or is he warning that?
John 3:36 says:
"He who has faith in the Son has the life
of that age; and the one rejecting the Son will not see life, but God’s ire rests upon him."
(Emphasis on 'of that age', which English interprets as eternal, and as well discussed, that's not what the Greek necessarily means.)
As I understand it, the Father has given everything to the Son (cf John 3:35), and it is the Father's will that all shall be saved (1 Corinthians 15:22, 1 Timothy 2:4, 4:10). Christ's sacrifice achieved just that (John 19:30). Are all those saved sinless? No, of course not (Mark 10:18) – everyone sins, none are perfect in the eyes of God, but they are made so – and I cannot accept there is anything a human can do that a God cannot fix.
It is we who determine degrees of sin. These are a little bit bad, these are worse, those are the worst. So do we suppose Christ saves only those who are a little bit bad, or perhaps them and some of the worse, and so on? You end up splitting hairs. You end up deciding that at some point God draws a line ... it all seems a bit too human for my liking.
In my view, only those why reject the love of God are damned, by their own choice, and when faced, after death, with the truth in and of Christ, when we see through a glass clearly, as it were, and not obscured as we do now, then why would anyone reject love?
As long as one soul suffers in hell, there can be no peace in heaven.
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Anyway, just my two pennyworth.