Alright well, this is a question from a Sikh who has a very religious step-father. I want to know why is it so bad for sikh girls to start dating? Like I don't think it says anywhere in our "Sikh Bible" [Granth?] that sikh girls are not allowed to date. It doesn't say you HAVE to have an arranged marriage. Like, my mother is fine with me picking the guy I want, as long as he's Sikh. But why does dating a white boy make it such a big deal? Especially if you know he REALLY does love you? And what is it with Sikh men, even women, with having their teenage girls outside? I'm not talking about pubs. I mean, to the park, or the mall. When you KNOW that your daughter is with a whole bunch of people, has a cell phone, or whatever you still deny? I've noticed that sometimes some parents would even say, "The other Indians will start talking" Like. Is it that bad for us to actually live a little? When we're avoiding sex, drugs, the "bad group". Now, I'm not saying it's all sikh parents. My cousin from my real-dad's side is allowed to date, she's allowed to drink, and she even does pot and her mother knowing this, is alright with it as long as she doesn't hide anything from her mother. Another thing; I'm a great believer in god, but my mother always tells me, the only way god is going to help me is if I pray. Now I don't mean to doubt on religion or anything. But like-- shouldn't the actions I make, the way I act, what I do affect god helping me? I didn't want to tell my parents but like.. I see the Granth and everything, as guidelines. Like, I know stealing is bad, don't do drugs, help your parents, etc etc. But shouldn't god just be with me for being a good person, rather than having to pray in order for him to be with me. If somebody could anwsers these questions for me.. that would be great.