Ky. mother upset by football player son's baptism

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Ky. mother upset by football player son's baptism - KVOA News 4, Tucson, Arizona -

LOUISVILLE, Ky. (AP) - The parents of a 16-year-old Kentucky football player who was baptized along with some teammates during a trip organized by their coach said Tuesday they believe their son may have felt some pressure to go through with the ceremony.

Parents said the voluntary trip was organized by Breckinridge County High School football coach Scott Mooney, who is a member of the Baptist church where the revival was held Aug. 26.

Dannie Ammons told The Associated Press he had no idea his son, Robert Coffey, was being taken to a church in another county on a school bus. The teen told them he was going to see a motivational speaker. Eight or nine other players were baptized at Franklin Crossroads Baptist Church, he said.

"There wasn't supposed to be anything religious," said Ammons, who is Catholic.

Robert Coffey said the furor surrounding his visit to the church is "kind of stupid" and that he decided to go through with the baptism because some of his friends were doing it.

Now, Coffey said he wishes he would have just stayed home.

"I don't want any part of this."

The teen's mother, Michelle Ammons, said her son told her he was using his iPod during the sermon and didn't remember what was discussed.

Forty-seven people at the Southern Baptist service were submerged in water, an act of obedience symbolizing one's acceptance of Jesus Christ as savior and "rebirth" in faith.

"No, it's not sticking," Michelle Ammons, who says she is a Baptist, said about the baptism. "We're just quiet about it. It's not like a topic we talk about."

She said she has heard from other parents who were upset that they didn't get to attend the baptisms.

Parents of at least two other team members told The Courier-Journal newspaper that their children told them the trip would include the church event. Because no permission slips were required, it was up to the children to tell their parents about the trip. Michelle Ammons said her son probably should have been more forthcoming about the trip but no one was told baptisms would be performed.

The church's pastor, Ron Davis, said Mooney had asked him if he could bring his players. Davis said the baptisms were "spontaneous" and had not been planned by a guest speaker giving a sermon that night.

"There was nobody telling them they had to be baptized that night," said Davis, whose rural church in Hardin County has about 1,000 members.

He said the church typically gets parental consent before baptisms, but "I was sure that they were cognizant enough to make that decision," Davis said. He said he wasn't sure if the boys were "16 or 20."

School Superintendent Janet Meeks, also a member of the church, said Tuesday in a statement on behalf of school employees that the coach's use of the school bus after school hours for an outside activity was allowed. He asked to take about 20 players to the church on the bus, the fuel cost was donated and a volunteer drove.

At the end of the service, "nine students came forward and wanted to be baptized," the statement said.

"It was my understanding that the parents knew the nature of the trip and that participation was voluntary," Meeks wrote in the statement.
But Coffey disputed the assertion that students knew they were going to a religious event.

"Nobody ever said there would be a revival," he said.

Michelle Ammons said the superintendent assured her that there would be better communication from the school in the future and that similar trips would require parental consent.

Ammons said the family was consulting an attorney but have not decided whether to pursue legal action.

"It kind of seems like to me this coach is kind of pushing whatever faith he decides he wants to push on them," Dannie Ammons said of the coach.
A constitutional attorney in Kentucky said the coach and the school system broke the law.

"A school cannot promote an endorsed religion," said Edwin Kagin, a constitutional lawyer in Kentucky who focuses on religion cases with atheists. "Doesn't matter if it's poor judgment, it's a crime."

Lisa Gross, a spokeswoman for the state Department of Education, said most school districts in Kentucky have a policy that allows the use of school buses for extracurricular activities.

"There's nothing inherent in state law that would prohibit" a trip like the one the team members took aboard a school bus.

Gross said the department is aware of what happened but does not plan to investigate the trip.
 
If he chose this.. Then I don't see the problem, perhaps he is making a fuss/noise because of fear of parents? But, if he was pushed into it.... Well.... One that is pointless... Isn't the idea of baptism to come of your own free will... No pressure, No bribery... No threats nothing, apart from a heart that without question accepts, believes and wants.

It's like baptising a child/baby.... Pointless.
 
It may be pointless to you, 17th Angel, but to millions of parents it's a significant part of their childs religious upbringing. And for some, a protection, to boot.

As far as this article goes, reguardless of anything else, parents should have been notified of the itenerary. The fact that they weren't seems, to me, the very least, shady.

Just my thoughts.
 
Starfire,

I agree with you. A teenager is not an adult (as many parents are painfully aware). The lawyer said that what the coach did is a crime, and quite frankly I agree.

17th,

How would that coach liked it if his Baptist son had a Buddhist minister for a baseball coach, and that Buddhist coach took the team for a "visit" to his Buddhist temple, and the Baptist's son came back saying he had recited the Three Jewels -- three simple statements -- that had made his son a Buddhist? I am sure the Baptist father would have exploded in anger.
 
It seems like it wasn't that big a deal to the kid. It's not like he's all demanding to join the faith now or anything. I think it's just the parents making a big deal because they can, when there is no big deal to be had. If anything, they should be talking to their kid if they're worried, not making a big fuss about the school, and what was obviously just something that looked vaguely interesting to the kid, and all of his friends were doing it, so he thought, what the hell? The kid just didn't seem like he cared one way or another, he just seemed embarrassed because his dad was making an @ss out of himself.

The dad is thinking about suing the school over this nonsense? *Covers face, sighing deeply* Wow. That's just... Wow.

I need to go pound my head against a wall now... excuse me...
 
Nick, words don't make you a Buddhist, and baptisms don't make you a Baptist. You have to choose to live a lifestyle, and follow teachings. And if you don't want to join, these things won't magically change your religion.

The kid obviously wasn't deeply affected by the sermon, or baptism, I mean, it says in the article that he was listening to an ipod during most of it.

It's just entirely less of a big deal than they're making of it. And teenagers aren't invalids, or imbeciles. They may not be "legal adults" but they make many, many, life defining decisions on their own, no matter how hard their parents try to shelter them, and treat them as if they can't handle the world. You were a teenager once. Didn't you?

I just hate that it's the norm in this society to treat children as if they are mentally deficient. It's probably easier doing that then actually listening to them though. Yeah. I can see the draw. It makes life easier. But that doesn't make it good. Or right.

It just kinda generally ticks me off.

Just me venting. I mean no offense.
 
Well heck, I suppose the coach could have taken all the players to a clinic where they were given a bunch of condoms, and they all vowed to use them. :rolleyes:
 
Nick, words don't make you a Buddhist, and baptisms don't make you a Baptist. You have to choose to live a lifestyle, and follow teachings. And if you don't want to join, these things won't magically change your religion.

The kid obviously wasn't deeply affected by the sermon, or baptism, I mean, it says in the article that he was listening to an ipod during most of it.

It's just entirely less of a big deal than they're making of it. And teenagers aren't invalids, or imbeciles. They may not be "legal adults" but they make many, many, life defining decisions on their own, no matter how hard their parents try to shelter them, and treat them as if they can't handle the world. You were a teenager once. Didn't you?

I just hate that it's the norm in this society to treat children as if they are mentally deficient. It's probably easier doing that then actually listening to them though. Yeah. I can see the draw. It makes life easier. But that doesn't make it good. Or right.

It just kinda generally ticks me off.

Just me venting. I mean no offense.

l'm kinda getting that idea about the norms and pushy nature of what 'one' has to put up with [and put on and take off], but hey l watch USA 'wife swap' and am aghast at how the rich treat their little princesses with material goods, and shes 18!! and milks it, and so the norms continue [uhoh l feel a feminist urge comin on..]

ok if they're having an extended childhood [which lets face it is the norm in the west..no initiation..preferred 'dependent' education till 18..no 'keys' until 21] and next door in timbuktoo they're getting married off at menstrual stage; totally cultural. More age does not necessarily mean more intelligence but we all have a duty to protect anyone young or old from predators of any ilk. And experience does count.
 
Hi everybody!

I think the key issue here is respect, which I consider to be the central point in any inter-religious dialogue. The questions are, how much respect should we expect from people of other religions, and how should we react when other people are disrespectul of our religious ideas? (And, I suppose there is another question, whether people think the Baptist coach was being disrespectful of his Catholic player in the first place.)

Does anyone agree or disagree?
 
l thought the player came from a baptist background? In any case kids [or young adults] are renowned for disowning their parents norms and following peer pressure which have their own rules of respect which may be quite skewed.
 
Hi everybody!

I think the key issue here is respect, which I consider to be the central point in any inter-religious dialogue. The questions are, how much respect should we expect from people of other religions, and how should we react when other people are disrespectul of our religious ideas? (And, I suppose there is another question, whether people think the Baptist coach was being disrespectful of his Catholic player in the first place.)

Does anyone agree or disagree?
The article doesn't say anything about Robert Coffey, the player attending, being Catholic, so there are no grounds for accusing the coach of disrespecting a Catholic player. I think it's more about the Catholic dad than anything else.

The article says that the player's father is Catholic...

Dannie Ammons told The Associated Press he had no idea his son, Robert Coffey, was being taken to a church in another county on a school bus. The teen told them he was going to see a motivational speaker. Eight or nine other players were baptized at Franklin Crossroads Baptist Church, he said.
"There wasn't supposed to be anything religious," said Ammons, who is Catholic.
...and that the player's mother is Baptist.

The teen's mother, Michelle Ammons, said her son told her he was using his iPod during the sermon and didn't remember what was discussed.
Forty-seven people at the Southern Baptist service were submerged in water, an act of obedience symbolizing one's acceptance of Jesus Christ as savior and "rebirth" in faith.
"No, it's not sticking," Michelle Ammons, who says she is a Baptist, said about the baptism. "We're just quiet about it. It's not like a topic we talk about."
She said she has heard from other parents who were upset that they didn't get to attend the baptisms.​

It sounds like this is a family disagreement between the player's parents, as is evidenced in the part highlighted in green above, and that the player's father is the one that is raising the big stink. I don't know if the father was trying to prevent the player from becoming a Baptist like his mother, or not. It certainly sounds like it, though.
 
No, I think the player comes from a Catholic family. It is true that peer pressure becomes a bigger factor than family pressure for many teenagers. But the article says the boy now regrets what happened, which makes the whole thing even more fascinating.
 
No, I think the player comes from a Catholic family. It is true that peer pressure becomes a bigger factor than family pressure for many teenagers. But the article says the boy now regrets what happened, which makes the whole thing even more fascinating.
I dunno, Nick. The player has a different last name than his parents, (which leads me to believe that this player was born before the parents were married.) The player's mother says in the article that she is a Baptist, and the player's dad says he is Catholic. I wouldn't say that constitutes a Catholic family, by any means.
 
Seattlegal,

Omigosh, this story is complex, isn't it? This brings up the issue of parents who are of different religions trying to raise childen. I know of several cases where this is happening, and it is a mess. Parents need to be on the same page when teaching religion to their children. Alas, this becomes quite difficult in a "religiously-blended" family.

We can only imagine (1) the difficulty of a Catholic step-father trying to teach religion to his Baptist step-son. It must be a huge challenge. (2) We must also accept the fact that it is a (step) father's duty to attempt such a thing. (3) we can also see how attemping such a thing may cause more strife and confusion in the boy's ability to believe in specific religious ideas (and may cause more schism in the family itself), which are the exact opposite things that any father would want to have for his son
 
Now I'm not familiar with the dictates of a Baptist baptism but it seems to me that there's a few inconsistancies in this tale of woe.

If as Nick the Pilot reports

Forty-seven people at the Southern Baptist service were submerged in water, an act of obedience symbolizing one's acceptance of Jesus Christ as savior and "rebirth" in faith.

and this lad was one of them, then his assertion he didn't take much notice is complete bunkum. I think even the most ipod distracted teenager would notice and wonder at his team mates hazing exercise. If only because his ipod had suddenly stopped working.

As for the parents that were upset because they had missed it. The mind boggles.

Would they have been similarly upset had there sons been initiated into the sex industry by taking them to a porn shoot. Presumably that would have been OK though, as at least they could buy a copy of the ceremony. :eek:

IMO if this actually happened it was by any standards a gross infringement of the sons rights and the school should be made to pay heavily to prevent future abuse of minors which is what it was.
 
I've been a vegetarian for over 20 years, but if you served me food with meat in it I wouldn't stick my finger down my throat. It isn't going to hurt me.

Likewise, I could get dunked by 1,000 baptists and it won't turn me into a christian, it will just get my clothes wet.

Everybody needs to just take a deep breath and relax. I'd worry more about the hazing that often accompanies team sports. Broom sticks up the butt scare me a lot more than baptisms.

Butt that's just me.
 
I've been a vegetarian for over 20 years, but if you served me food with meat in it I wouldn't stick my finger down my throat. It isn't going to hurt me.

Likewise, I could get dunked by 1,000 baptists and it won't turn me into a christian, it will just get my clothes wet.

I agree, but that doesn't mean you can abuse someone willy-nilly. Don't forget that had this lad been a member of 'some' religious groups the consequences could be serious.

Everybody needs to just take a deep breath and relax. I'd worry more about the hazing that often accompanies team sports. Broom sticks up the butt scare me a lot more than baptisms.

Butt that's just me.

See no evil then (avatar):)
 
Don't forget that had this lad been a member of 'some' religious groups the consequences could be serious.

Serious? How?

Could he suffer from serious spiritual confusion? Might this damage his delicate psyche?

Heaven help the boy if he sees commercials for different breakfast cereals. He might never know what to eat in the morning.
 
I agree that it was an infringement of the son's rights. The sad thing is, the coach makes no apology and takes no responsibility for what he did.
 
I agree that it was an infringement of the son's rights. The sad thing is, the coach makes no apology and takes no responsibility for what he did.
Seriously? The son taking a trip and getting dunked of his own free will? Would you take that free will from him and call it "preserving his rights" as well?

Unbelievable.
 
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