Positive outlook

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  1. wil

    wil UNeyeR1 Moderator

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    I have been accused repeatedly on this site for wearing Rose Colored Glasses.

    My preacher taught everything just is. I prefer to think it's all good, I just can't see it when I'm in the middle of it. And all I have to do is wait and over time I will see the lessons, the blessons.

    Anyway 10 years ago a buddy from this site 17th angel sent me this email. I completely believe my attitude and Outlook affected my healing from four strokes, two Open Hearts, and months of rehab. My attitude of getting stronger or die trying and living till I die still serves me well as I continue to recover. Below is 17th's missive.

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    My bad bro!!! Here :D

    Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

    He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

    Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

    “Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

    “Yes it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

    I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”

    I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

    “Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.”

    “What did you do?” I asked.

    “Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply… I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

    Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
     
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    RJM God Feeds the Ravens Admin

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    But it will end. What then? Some believe that is all. Others believe there is more ...
     
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    wil UNeyeR1 Moderator

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    Yup...nobody knows....not even everyone has a belief....some accept not knowing.

    Irregardless....we do know that we have this perception of living today in this physical reality...we can bemoan that fact...or make the best of it. Most of the time I choose the latter. Should their be a new perception when thi one ends...I will deal with that later.
     
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    What a wonderfull story. It really captured My heart. We really do have two choices. Every day, every moment. And we can choose to live!
     
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    wil UNeyeR1 Moderator

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    I tend toward logic...or claim to anyway...I am a pragmatist and utilitarian.

    Stewing over the past be it loss of health or wealth, relationship issues...whatever... I simply don't see the use, don't see the benefit.

    Realizing it is all.choice.is incredibly valuable. I often hear, "That is easy for you to say." And they are right. It is...once I engage my brain and disengage emotional response. And the length of time to do that, the choice and will to do that differs for all of us.
     
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    Can't say the same about me though. I am on the outside calm and cool but on the inside a rather emotional and sensitive being. Empathic though ,tend to focus on what is healthy and realistic. And I try to sit down to meditate every day to keep up with it all. I practice the right hand path to learn how to control my outer and inner emotions.
     
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    Cino Big Love! (Atheist mystic) Admin

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    Thanks for these posts. Thinking about what you all wrote, I do have a positive outlook, a sense of it all going in a good direction. All the same, I see a lot of darkness within me and those around me, which I can't shut my eyes to, and which, at the best of times, I can hold with compassion. Mixed bag! :)
     
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    wil UNeyeR1 Moderator

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    It is my belief that awareness is the beginning..the first step of understanding what we need to do to change perspective and behaviours.

    One thing I cannot deny is my safety net...it was first family...and the irl friends and then online friends and this place.

    When I was out I know there were.days I was comatose, weeks I could not move and a couple of months before I could use my phone.

    I have no clue how long I was offline here...but I know coming back was a form of a.reunion...coming home and the support and love received here added to my healing...and still does!
     
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