Story continued ...
So Mary lives within the Temple precincts, dedicated to the liturgical life. She might well have been a waver of the Veil of the Temple. When she reaches marriageable age, being a 'better class' of person, a husband is chosen for her. But her sanctity has been remarked, and even among the virgins she is held as something special. Remember she was born to parents who themselves had past the age of bearing children, therefore no ordinary husband would do.
Joseph is seen as a viable candidate. He was married, now a widower, he has children, and no need of someone to carry on his line. He is a successful artisan. A sober and righteous person, well-established. It's unlikely her family would have chosen a husband from outside their class, so they would be looking for someone well-established and well founded. Should their daughter decide to remain in her virginal state, he would not object.
He agrees to the proposal.
Then he hears that she is with child. His decision is to 'put her away', a discreet divorce, no fuss, no fanfare. Between his and her families, they have influence enough to keep things quiet. No-one need ever know.
Then, in a dream, he has a visitation from an angel.
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Mary's son grows strong. He's schooled in the Scriptures, but excels, his insights putting his tutors to shame. His name is mentioned abroad. He's destined for high things. Meanwhile his cousin John, who went native and joined the Essenes, has now been thrown out by them, and is preaching his own mission. as long as he's preaching to rustics he's OK, but he's starting to challenge the authority of the temple, and that's causing problems.
He is known to the ruling elite, and when he speaks out against Herod Antipas, his words hit home.
Jesus, meanwhile, has turned his back on his family and their fortune. he is on a mission to bring succour to the poor ...
... so in this fiction, he is born into wealth, privilege and entitlement, but he turns his back on all that, and goes to to preach to the poor and the dispossessed. As something of a prophet, an ascetic, and an apocalyptic preacher, his mother remains close to him. (His father has probably died.) His wider family is mixed in their reaction, as he is something of a trouble-maker as far as they are concerned.
But he is known among the Jerusalem elite, and although he preaches mainly in the countryside, he is in communication with the upper echelons of society. Some of his disciples are likewise sons of successful fishing families, who own fleets, rather than just a man and a boat. Jesus knows Nicodemus, and Joseph of Arimathea, both members of the Sanhedrin, but both keep their association with him secret.
There are well-to-do women who help fund his missions, but women are irrational creatures, so tolerated.
Clearly he was from influential circles, but he turned his back on all that, and when the time came, when he proved just too troublesome (like John before him), those from those circles of power, authority and influence turned against him, not just because of his message, bad enough as that was, but for the more serious crime of being one of their own, and for that betrayal he must pay the ultimate price.
Pilate saw it for what it was. Spite and revenge. He wanted no part of it, but these people were skilled in political manoeuvre, and they would not be denied. The howling mob, he could ignore them, they'd go away, and next week it would be something else. But the upper echelons, who had friends in high places, who wrote letters, who made waves, those he could not ignore.