Quahom1 said:
After all is said and done, we can consider forgiveness. (Adrenaline and forgiveness is like oil and water...one can try and mix them, but eventually they will seperate).
Q, this part of what you said reminded me of part of the training I once had (I've had it many times, actually - and in a way, we all have it
every single day of our lives) ... on how to be a
Totally Responsible Person ("TRP"). Part of a presentation from one of my teachers went thus:
[There are many who] recognize that "It has got to stop somewhere." They know intuitively what our elders have told us - what goes around comes around. They know that for an individual, or a civilization, to progress, a moment must occur when we stop blaming, judging, criticizing, venting our anger, harboring resentments and thoughts of revenge, and insisting that others apologize and take responsibility for what they have done to us. They know, as a panelist said on Meet the Press the day before the Million Man March, that "the oil of blame and the water of responsibility don't mix." They know that if we don't accept responsibility for every action we take and negative emotion we have, that the out flowing anger, resentment, etc. will continue to go around and come back to us creating more opportunities to learn until we get the message. Like the hero in the movie Groundhog Day, they know that we'll keep getting tested with opportunities until we get it right, i.e., that the cycle of negative emotions must eventually stop with us. They know that we must own every negative reaction, externally and internally, and acknowledge that it is self-created. Only full acceptance of this will change that negative emotional state to something more creative and productive. Their lives illustrate that they have done just that.
As Dolly Parton's character reminded us in the movie Straight Talk,
we must "Get off the cross, honey, somebody might need the wood."
I highlighted the part that you triggered in my memory, and
now you can see the association with the Dolly Parton quote, as well.
Shalom,
andrew
