Well that's tough to say. The combination of God's plan and our free will is hard to understand simply because we aren't God. The way I think of it is that God knows what choices we will make, based on what happens to us, and he knows how those choices will effect everything else in the world. So is take it that "God's Plan" is the way he knows what's going to happen, because he knows everything.
Im getting there I think. its impossible to deny the call right?
Jesus said "
Many are called, but few are chosen." God calls everyone because he wants everyone to come to him. But it's an act of your fee will to answer the call.
my real answer is I dont know Im Afraid that the whole thing is plain nuts. but im too scared of hell to hold out for much longer. I have no future anyway god hasnt shown me his plans for me.
Well, unless you repent to God and ask for his forgiveness, you are still spiritualy dead to God, which is probably why you dont' know his plan for you yet. Once you are forgiven, you recieve the Holy Spirit who is always with you (as God has promised). The Holy Spirit talks to you and reveals things to you as you get closer to God (such as his plan for you), plus you usualy have to ask God and be persistant in asking.
does god only have plans for people after he saves them.
does he have a plan for everyone?
God has a plan for everybody, only that the people who arent' saved have no idea what it is.
does his plan include them going to hell?
I guess in a way it does, but that doesn't make it his fault that people turn away and refuse him out of their own free will.
does it make god sad when people go to hell? it must not right.
Oh yes. God doesn't like having to do it. But he simply must because of the choices his image bearers have made.
is hell kind of like the rock that god cant lift?
Of course not. It says in Revelation that God will cast Hell, death, and Satan into the lake of fire (which is figurative for God's Judgement). God is sovergn and all powerful.
free will right? he created something that he cant control except in the end he fixes the outcome...
God influences. God can also controll through his Spirit, but only if you let him. It's a tough thing for us to do but it is possible.
does that make you think about anythign at all?
Yes

One thing I've thought of is this analogy: God whispers to us, but Satan throws fire-crackers at us. Simply, God will put in your heart what the right thing to do is, but Satan will do ANYTHING he can to get you away from it/ignore it. I'm sure many Christians can vouch for that from experience.
It seems to me from what you said was that God knows of this fear of Hell you have, so he's trying to use that to get you to come to him. Whereas Satan is trying to dissuade you by saying "It's just f-ing nuts!" God wants you to come to him by faith; faith cannot exist without doubt, because then it would be knowledge.