I have selected the girl for my grandson.

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  1. Aupmanyav

    Aupmanyav Search, be your own guru.

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    The girl is probably 14/15. Chubby, flaw-less skin. My grandson is 18/19. He has completed his school and is now in college (will study law). They are related to us (third cousin sort of thing, permitted by Hindu law). I do not think her family will have any problem with the arrangement. I told this to my wife just a few minutes ago. She pooh-poohed the idea. Of course, we might not be there when and if this happens. But I have set the ball rolling. No compulsion, just an idea. The family was there when our group assembled for Bhai Dooj (the brother-sister festival) yesterday evening. Next year I may broach the idea with my nephew (i.e., the girl's father).

    I remember that a grandma (in relation) talked about my marriage to a girl when I was just 14. Ten years later I married that very girl, the grandma had passed away before that. We will be completing 55 years of our marriage in Feb. next year.

    Indians are sort of mad when it comes to marriages. :D
     
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    I find the tradition interesting...

    I absolutely like your
    Often when we hear arranged marriage I think of compulsory...and friends not looking forward to it (and others that are!) But it is always a tad weird.

    Our system ends up half in divorce...and half of those remarry and divorce numerous times.

    It is an issue marrying for love...for once it is gone...so goes the contract.

    All in all I honor those who "start the ball rolling" non compulsory...but with family blessing and support.
     
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    Aupmanyav Search, be your own guru.

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    Further to my post, the relationship between my grandson and that girl is that their great grandmothers were sisters, one of them being my mother who loved her sister, some 10 years older, very much. Even a mention of her used to bring tears in my mother's eye even in her old age. I am an atheist but if they are in heaven according to theist thinking, I am sure that they both will be mightily pleased with this match. I think the relationship cannot be classified as incest.
     
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    Aupmanyav Search, be your own guru.

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    Indian joint families present another problem. The daughter-in law will generally stay with the mother-in-law for long times. My wife lived with my mother for 53 years. My daughter-in-law has lived with my wife for 20 years now. If employment does not force my grandsons to live separately from my son, they too will be together for a long time.

    Nice article on relationships, but perhaps different from the Indian situation, where living away from parents or sons is not the norm.
     
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    So it helps if they get along, lol?
     
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  7. Aupmanyav

    Aupmanyav Search, be your own guru.

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    Yeah, that is necessary.
     
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