As ever with moral questions, it's the reasoning.
The debate runs around a) the 'rights' of the particular woman, and b) the 'rights' of the unborn child.
As it stands today, a) over-rides b) up until a certain point in time, and then it switches and b) over-rides a) – with a sliding scale as to when that point is.
Yeah, I did a paper on Rowe v Wade in my Medical Law and Ethics class. My prof didn't like my conclusion, but she could not argue with my reasoning. She took me aside and asked me to tone down my paper before presenting in class.
I too, am sorry for your loss. It is a callous person who thinks of an unborn child as "merely" a lump of undifferentiated flesh. It is a dastardly person who peddles in such flesh to the highest bidder.
Rowe in its initial formula allowed for abortion until the embryo "quickened," that is - it begins moving in the womb of its own, approx the beginning of the second trimester. The Supreme Court Justices at that time wrestled with the question of when exactly an embryo becomes an infant and settled on "quickening." Much as I still find it distasteful, I can reluctantly understand (with the oft cited examples of rape, incest, mother's health, etc) up to that point. Up to that point, per Rowe in its initial formulation, abortion was based on a Mother's / woman's right to privacy - nothing else. And according to Rowe v Wade, after the embryo quickened, abortion was still illegal where it was illegal...it has always been a State's rights issue that the Court superceded in 1970 whatever with Rowe. It was subsequent decisions based on Rowe or pointing to Rowe that led up to the point of last year I think it was a Governor (was it dingleberry in New York?, I don't remember but will happily find it if any challenge) that promoted abortion up until birth, even a few hours after, quote: "We'll make the baby comfortable and let the mother decide." Wrong answer, and I think anyone with a heart would agree. A viable baby is a baby, no mistake, at which point it is undeniably infanticide. Premies are saved at younger and younger ages, but these wretched people want to murder an infant well past viability. Nah, call it what it is - baby killers.
Margaret Sanger, the founder of Planned Parenthood, was a known Eugenicist, and who openly promoted the culling of the Black Race. This is not hyperbole; the information is easily found but strangely not promoted....hmmmm. Also note that Black Mothers are disproportionately "served" by Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood was caught on tape by more than one organization selling fetal tissue, which in most circumstances is against Federal Law.