Too funny, this response brought a clear image in my head of a future post from you refuting the above statement...Hey Wil, you nearly made me choke on my sandwich! I've known some terrific gays, but hug one? That's a bridge too far my friend.
Too funny, this response brought a clear image in my head of a future post from you refuting the above statement...Hey Wil, you nearly made me choke on my sandwich! I've known some terrific gays, but hug one? That's a bridge too far my friend.
Yup, nope not really. Yup I hug all the time, no very little hostility. The most I get is them standing there stiff as a board, not knowing what to do.17th said:So you seriously... Will hug someone you've never... ever met before? That is never met with defence or hostile reactions?
Flow....it is appropriate that we re open this thread after discussing memories of you on another...it is also so appropriate that you were the last poster four years ago!
Yup, nope not really. Yup I hug all the time, no very little hostility. The most I get is them standing there stiff as a board, not knowing what to do.
Actually over the years my hugging has modified. As someone approaches, with or without an outstreched hand for a handshake...I open my arms. My right hand is almost shoulder hieght...now should they choose they'll reach out and grab it or maybe even take a step back. Or if their right hand instead of reaching, opens as well or if they take a step in.... a hug it is.
Frequency? 90/10?? in favor of hugs...probably higher.
Hey Wil, you nearly made me choke on my sandwich!
I don't know how I missed this thread, but this reminds me so much of my own Grandfather.With me it's pretty well defined who gets and gives hugs. That's just one of the things that changes as one gets older.There's less spontaneity.
I'm sure he understood, but I can't help but wonder why he felt he couldn't return the hug...
For many it is not part of their paradigm. It doesn't fit their norm. But for so many I've heard years later or over time...It would be nice if I could turn the scary hugging monster into an angel, but I haven't found the power to do it yet. Sorry. No hugs.