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""What is modesty and why should I take it seriously? Modest people seem so uptight and frigid. I've got a lot of kick in me and I don't want to become an old lady at 18."
My response:
"Modesty is knowing when not to dress a certain manner will elict a response that you didn't intend to make. Modesty is having enough self-respect that you don't feel you need to reveal yourself inapropiately in order to gain attention. Self-respect is having the confidence that you don't have to fulfill the status quo or cave into peer pressure in order to be popular or have friends. Your friends ought tomlike you for who you are and not what you can show. In posting a nude picture to your boyfriend conveys the message that you are easy access and invites him to look at you as an object of desire instead of a lover. Being a male teen once, I know that the male mindset at that age is geared toward sex and sendimng such a picture text can trigger a sexual response, whether you meant to or not. Not only that, but vthere is the danger that tis photo might get leaked out to other phone and even to the internet, where your nude body will be on display for anyone to see.
Modesty is not a death knell to fun. It simply protects you from appearing cheap and desparate. Sure, you want to run wild. But be aware of the consequences. What kind of kicks are you looking for? Are you sure that posting racy pictures of yourself is the sure way of getting those kicks and living the best life for you? You are concerned about being an old lady at 18, why don't you be more concerned with just being a lady? You want so much to grow up fast. Slow down and enjoy the age you are now. What you do between you and your boyfriend is no one's business but yours, all I'm suggesting is that you tink twice before making those kind of decisions you might regret later."
Basically the same thing I've been writing, Nick.
OK Dondi. I'll now play the part of a fictional young teen by the name of Alice. I just asked you the above question and you answered. Now I roll my eyes and say to you"
"C'mon, they just arrested me for child pornography.
Who are you to say I may illicit a response I didn't intend to make. Wake up, this is 2009. Next you'll tell me that if a girl is raped it is her fault since she dressed as if she asked for it. Sheesh.
I didn't send Bob the pictures to be popular. It was just part of a game. You see, you look at this as bad, and we see it as just being natural and flirting a bit. You are too uptight and I don't want to be like you.
I should hope Bob does look at me as something to be desired. I want to feel like a woman, not a toad.
Yes, it is true that they could reach the Internet but Mary, Beth, and I are good friends and Bob and Phil are so close to us, it just wouldn't happen.
You think that nudity appears cheap but a thong is OK. What isn't cheap to you; wearing a sack dress? Ain't gonna happen. Lighten up already, this is 2009. I don't need any fake antiquated morality that prevents me from being myself.
Alice looks at you with a disappointed look. What do you say?