Beautifully put! Understanding (to our best ability) of what is best for ourselves & of those we love. IE: A group was trying to show love to a village in an economically poor country by shipping out gently used shirts. Sounds loving right? Well, this put local clothing shops out of business because they couldn't compete with "free." I agree, Lunitik. Only recently have I realized this though. I used to depend on guys for my self-esteem, & of course marriage was a disappointment because nobody can give us self-esteem but our selves. Intellectually, I realize that when I love someone, it should come from my heart with no strings attached, just like a dance for the joy of it. Yet emotionally, I feel like there has to be reciprocity. I'm still learning how to apply this in a way that is loving to myself & others in harmony. Isn't that intriguing! I can't help but wonder what potential we have! ...For healing ourselves & others in mind, body & spirit! What do you think? Today my buttons got pushed pretty good, by the button creator herself, my mom. I exploded (pms & an argument with my husband earlier contributed)... but it was much of her actions too. I needed to assert myself because she kept disrespecting me. After a cooling off time, we discussed it again calmly & finally she respected me. Yeah, I probably said some things I shouldn't have, but our relationship is better overall, than if I would've just been quiet. It's like Aristotle taught, "Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy." I think we want to have privacy because we feel safer that way... I'm very private, partly because I seem to have some nosey, gossipy neighbors & I don't like to be gossiped about. I live in an area permeated with the Mormon cult. I don't trust most people around me, including family. So, I create privacy to feel safe... I'll open up the second someone shows I can trust them... Like with you, I hardly know you, but I've opened up to you because you're open. Most people are very private, & would rather pay someone to listen than go through the risk of finding friends to be open to. Still, what you mentioned about how God knows all... & what we've discussed about the humanity in us all... it may be better to "be the change I want to see in the world."