The confusion is mutual. I don't understand why you keep coming back to this point. Here's what I think. I am prepared to be proven wrong. I think, you don't like me calling it patriarchy if a group of men have the last say in your religion. You think that is a bad thing of me to say that and you want me to admit somehow that it should not be called patriarchy. I suggested a couple of times to let our disagreement stand, but somehow, it is bugging you. So you are trying various strategies, blaming the victims, relativizing, calling me prejudiced - anything but address the actual thing I pointed out. I think it is you who are fixating on it. The less ideological, more utilitarisn thing for you to do would be to let go of this point. Or to work for change in your religion. Or, my favorite, to discuss how other Baha'is see this. I'm sure there are different opinions on this, why not mention these? That would give us an impression of how your faith tackles one of the hardest nuts to crack for all contemporary religions. Or were they all excommunicated if they spoke up?