If the man asks something which is not right the woman of course can say no... .
The problem with that 17th is that it is the men (religious leaders, politicians, etc) that decide what can be questioned and they have a mirriad of answers as to why certain issues cannot be questioned (eg because we (the men) interpret the scriptures to say this, so women should accept it because we decided that is what G-d meant).
I was astonished recently to read that some women in the USA & UK are paying to have lessons in how to be a subserviant wife I accept women's lib has gone too far but please let's not go down that road again. One awful example was a British woman, who was the main breadwinner, had to cut up her bank cards and ask permission from her husband to spend money (her own money). In my view this shows that some women can see womens lib has gone too far and are trying to redress the balance but in the wrong way - perhaps women are feeling a bit lost with all this liberation they have gained for themselves?