Re: Registered Sex Offenders - Meusbandgan's Law
No one can fully understand things until after they go through it. If 2000 children show up missing every day, no one is going to care about that until after one of their chidlren turn up missing...then they sing a different tune.
The ones who weep and cannot speak because no one hears them.
It is highly personal to me as well but I did overcome or so I think I made it out ok. I can relate to so much about what you are saying, especially about standing up for yourself, and I do understand the problems and the set backs from abuse.
I really do understand and I know. I do.
In Florida I think it was last year or maybe the year before they started something called "Amber alert," named after a little girl named Amber who was abducted. These Amber alerts are sent out over TV and radio, even to some cell phones if you put your number on a list with the state. I got no problem with that. I see the occasional alert (*maybe* one a month) come across, and it is a good thing because it alerts people to keep an eye out for these missing kids.
Most, let me repeat for emphasis,
most by far are abducted by a non-custodial parent. Yes, you get the occasional screwball who steals a baby from the maternity ward, like here in Jacksonville a few years back, but almost all of the Amber alerts issued since the program started here have been for non-custodial parents trying to slip away with the child. Heart-wrenching, family shattering, emotionally charged....but nothing anywhere near the sordid child stalking predator that is used to hype this stuff.
Yes, there are mentally unstable people in our presence who prey on kids...get them off the street, no argument. But losing one's composure at the mere mention of the term pedophile...as I have watched at this forum repeatedly...isn't very sane or civil behavior *either.* Different matter of degree, yeah, ok, I understand. But I still agree with Benjamin Franklin..."those who would surrender their liberty for security deserve neither." Making it easier to railroad *accused* offenders (and there is no other term, they do not even have to be duly convicted) only makes it easier to "prosecute" the innocent. When it comes to pedophilia, there are no innocents. Once accused, even falsely, you are guilty. Not even the pretense of a sham trial. Innocent until proven guilty...always a bit of a stretch but doable...is not an option with this type of crime. There is no rehabilitation, either. Commit murder, and get rehabilitated. Have someone falsely accuse you of fondling a child, and serve a life sentence *trying desperately* to prove your innocence.
So you were abused as a child? I'm sorry. But so was I. Depending how you define abuse, all of us of one or two generations back were. Hell, my mom tore my @ss up *every* time I screwed up. They'd plant her under the jail by today's standards. My dad was even worse. And yes, I was even accosted. My brother was raped. Another brother seems to have willingly fallen in with an old pervert when he was a teenager.
I'm not saying these things are OK. I'm saying we are *far* too paranoid and instantly emotional and judgmental to see clearly or rationally. A hundred years ago people just like you under the same paranoia and justifying it in the exact same manner would be burning crosses and hanging black people with nooses from trees. It is the same exact kind of insanity that drove those kinds of social hatreds and fed those same paranoid fears. I'm not calling names here, I'm trying to get people to open their eyes to the insanity.
and what? all kinds of lawsuits?. We can do 50 pages on that but I am not going there.
