cavalier said:
When I read stories like yours Faithful, I do wonder what might have been.
In truth though, these feelings have never lasted. I have doubted that we made the right decision.
Yes, the intention of abortion is to stop life, but so is the wearing of a condom (given you're not worried about STD's), so is withdrawing.
I do not believe that abortion is murder. I realise that some of you will disagree with me, but this does not trouble me any more than the fact that I disagree with you, troubles you.
I accept that God may not agree, but I know and God will know that my actions were based on love. If there is something to forgive I believe God will forgive.
With this debate on anti-abortion and pro-choice, I think the interesting points people have raised is that many of you consider abortion to be "murder" or "avoiding responsibility." I'm thinking that although abortion may be a moral issue, I'm not exactly in favour of the idea of it being a legal issue.
Sure, abortion may be seen as one of the most dirtiest acts we can do as human beings in the way of getting someone pregnant and stopping a life because we were too cowardly to accept the consequences of having fun.
But, should we change the legal system to ban it?
It makes sex sound like criminal behaviour. Do you think people who recklessly have sex should be deemed "criminals?" The thing about making abortion illegal is that it sounds like a criminal offence. I don't think abortionees deserve that "label." Imagine turning up to an abortion clinic where everyone looks at you in that shameful way as if they think you're a murderer. Not all moral issues require a legal equivalent. We all screw up, or someone else screws us up. Consider the possibilities.
1) You were raped
2) You had sex because you had emotional needs
3) The couple were drunk
4) Your boyfriend or husband left you
5) It's impossible to support the child financially
6) The shame of not bringing up the child properly is worse than aborting it
Reckless sexual interactions are small issues that can accidentally become big issues. Consider all the other blunders in life that we make that don't require "abortions." Also consider that fact that it's an issue women have to deal with that men don't. Aren't we making life a bit unfair for women? Unwanted pregnancies and abortions are certainly a very dirty and unclean matter but that's life. The world isn't perfect.
Moreover, I don't agree with the idea of making rules like that. I don't agree with the idea of always having to shape a legal system to achieve justice. Justice isn't about legal systems and having rules. Justice is about
resolution of damage done to the
personal dignity of people. While murder itself may be a violation of one's personal dignity, the dignity of the person killed, I think it's most valid when that person has actually set foot in this world. An unborn baby has not yet set foot in this world. The personal dignity of that life is less important than the mother. That life has not lived. A life unborn has less need for fulfillment than one that is already alive. A life that has not lived is better off than one that is already living. Abortion, therefore, spares the unborn life of the pains in this world. Don't we all want the best for each other? Isn't that what Justice is about? Healing and compensation? Resolution and reconciliation?
The mother has been alive longer. We all have a life story. We all want to be valued and appreciated for who we are and what we've done. That's what it means to have dignity. The mother may see abortion as a well of restoring that dignity and honour. It's a chance to start afresh after some bad choices. In addition, what's happened is not always the mother's fault. There may have been things that happened in her life that have driven her to that decision.
Justice isn't about legal systems and making rules. A legal system is just an implementation of the ideals of justice, but it is driven by assumptions on what justice means and how it's defined. Let's not dehumanise and impersonalise justice. Justice is about resolution of damage done to one's dignity. Justice is personal. This is why I think the mother should be able to make her own decision. It's her life. It's her choice.
Justice is not always as systematic as we think. Sometimes it's as simple as seeing, hoping for and desiring the best in people. Justice is not all cold-blooded calculation and no heart. Justice is about what we value, what we love. I agree that abortion is a dirty deed, but it may actually be a necessary one.
Legal systems run on utilitarian value. It's about getting everyone to follow the same rules. But if we all have to follow the same rules then we're ignoring that everyone is different. We suggest that your life story, your thoughts, feelings and emotions don't matter. So how do you feel about that? Do you appreciate that? Do you feel unimportant? If so, then you're right. Legal systems do have a way of becoming impersonal and dehumanising.
A legal system is just a structural and systematic framework with rules, protocols, processes, checks and balances to implement what one defines as "justice." But it treats everyone the same. It assumes that one shoe fits all sizes.
I guess my question is -- do you really know what Justice
really means? Is there really one single answer to that question? We've all been taught that justice comes from a legal system, but do we realise it's just an implementation? Point -- the legal system is not "God." Are we trying to "create God" with our legal system?
Does it really mean abortion should be illegal? Does it mean everything that is a moral issue should be implemented in a legal system? Do you consider legal systems to have limitations, in terms of appreciating the social and emotional element of human existence?